Saturday, September 30, 2006

It happens...

A little rain...

Jerry and I have been together for the past 17 years, and married for 14.5 years. We are already familiar about each other's quirks, habits, thoughts, feelings, etc. We could even finish each other's sentence. We are what my parents would say like feet to an old pair of slippers - we are that comfortable around each other.

A few weeks back, we had a bit of a crisis at the homefront. Nasty things were said, mostly coming from me. It was borne out of anger, frustration, disappointment... but mostly out of anger. It was a point when I thought, hey, how could this be happening? We are always in control even in tight situations.... Jerry and I work in synergy. It is not 1 + 1 = 2. As a team, we are always better than 2 people or 2 heads put together. We always take pride in what we could jointly accomplish. What-went-wrong-then???

Bull crap...

In the course of trying to resolve the issue, we sought other people's help. Instead of being bailed out of our fix, we were refused. Surprise, surprise! We were refused by the very people who were close to us. Instead, we were given unsolicited advise as if we didn't know any better. A lot of bull crap is what we got. Call it paranoia, but I think, fingers are pointed at me for bringing this crisis upon us.

Rocky union? NOT!...

Anyway, I have found a way to work around our situation. It sure was a rocky bumpy ride, but thank God for leading us to the right direction. Special thanks to Mama(razzi) for the valuable help too as always. Now we're back on track and probably doing a lot better than we were before the crisis.

And yeah, Jerry and I are still a team, thankyouverymuch.

Stronger than ever!

(Images swiped from Memento's Flickr)

24 comments:

  1. so i should say that the team is stronger than ever. hurray! have a happy weekend!

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  2. it happens in most marriages... i guess a couple who doesn't fight/argue once in awhile is really in big trouble, coz it means there's no open communication in the relationship anymore.

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  3. HI ANALYSE!
    Yessiree! We're stronger than ever. Have a fun weekend up there in France. ;)

    HI JO!
    I couldn't agree more. Like I always say, nobody's immune from these challenges. It's a given that every couple must be able to handle.

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  4. Hey, that's what makes team stronger: that getting over hurdles and challenges together. Go team go!

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  5. im sure it wasn't an easy ride. but thank God it's over! :) proof lang yan that you genuinely love each other despite the odds.

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  6. HI PINAYHEKMI!
    I've proven that time and again.... Two is always better than one. Hurdling these challenges is twice as difficult without the other.

    HI TIN!
    You bet Tin, it wasn't an easy ride! I was devastated at the onset but glad that we came through it. The biggest one so far and I hope everything else pales in comparison to this.

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  7. Hi Nor! I think you and I will outlast any crisis because there is just too much blessings to thank for and much more to look forward to! Thank you for all you have done and I Love You for the fullness of life that you have given me!

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  8. HI JERRY!
    We've learned our lessons well I hope. Let's look beyond the situation and appreciate the opportunity it gave us. Now we know better, right?

    Hurry home. 5 days in Manila is just about enough time for work. Take a chance flight earlier than your booked one. Teehee...

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  9. am happy that you have weathered the storm in your marriage. There ar lots of them that come from time to time but when the foundation is strong, it would not just crumble away.

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  10. Hi Linnor, I'm happy you're past the crisis. One more proof that prayers really work. I'm also sure it has made you both stronger and that you're even more sure you LOVE each other. Take care & God bless.

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  11. thanks for using the images in this great post. i have to say it - the entries were apt with the pics. and of course, i just have to love the pictures.

    why?

    because it only means one thing - you two look good - with problems or otherwise.

    Sabi nga ni Papa during his speech in our wedding/s "It's ok to fight and argue - but do it while holding each other's hands". One of the best advices na sana - until he ended with his famous quip - "in the nude"....hahahaha - that just made everyone's night...

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  12. Hugs to both.

    Love is very apparent here.

    That's a good advice coming from your dad Junnie. I'll try to remember that whenever I have the urge to fight and argue. Sabi din nila, when you fight and argue, look into his/her eyes. Makes a lot of difference. Isang piece of advice lang that works for me.

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  13. that's the beauty of marriage, we stumble but yet we get up better as ever! god bless to both of you!

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  14. Jo is right. One of the ingredients of a happy and lasting marriage is COMMUNICATION. Also, to make marital relationship succeed, husband and wife should always put Christ at the center of such relationship. Like a tripod, useless the two if Jesus is not present. Yes?

    Instead of thinking ill of others (your friends and others whom you said cannot be relied upon in time of crisis), let us instead ask the Good Lord some of His kindness so that we may always think well of others. Let us ask Him to teach us to mind our own business and to pray for those who seem to need it. Let us start everyday with a new attitude and plenty of GRATITUDE.

    Remember what Jesus said---"If anyone wishes to come after me. let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me". His words are clear. If we love the CROSS, we are His followers. If we refuse it by anger, revenge, impatience, fault-finding, uncharitable criticism and unkindness, we are no true followers of Jesus.

    Let us ask our Loving Lord to grant us the LIGHT to always recognize His BANNER--- the CROSS, especially on occasions when people and events annoy and disturb us. At all times, let us face every situation with Christ-like SELF-CONTROL.When trials come, let us handle them as Christ did in His earthly life. Amen?

    God loves you and your family dearly.

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  15. HI THE CA T!
    I totally agree when you said "a lot".... More important than anything is the fact that Jerry and I are still together.

    HI NINA!
    Thanks, prayers did it for us.

    HI JUNNIE!
    That was the intention, to match the pics with the entries... :) Glad you liked it. Thanks for all the support!

    Censored yung advice ni Papa.... Hehehe...

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  16. HI JO KUUIPO!
    Thanks! No matter how real the problem is, it's still something you wouldn't want to have to go through or wish on anyone.

    HI PAZ!
    God bless to you and hubs as well...

    HI PAPARAZZI!
    Thank you so much to you and Mamarazzi for the unconditional support! Rest assured that your advice would be heeded.

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  17. Basta't harapin nang magkasama, kahit anong paghihirap kaya. :)

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  18. 17 years is a long time, WOW!
    I'm happy to know all is well.
    All the best to both of you.

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  19. HI LEAH!
    Hahaha! I agree, 17 years is a long time, but let's not make that sound like I'm old! Hahaha! Just kidding....

    Thanks! All the best to you too!

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  20. haaaaayyy. why do i feel so much relief that everything's worked out na? you're right, it happens. and the most important part is what you've become when you've been through it.

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  21. HI RUTH!
    I love that line... "the most important part is what you’ve become when you’ve been through it". Plus all the lessons learned will be put to heart. ;)

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  22. yes, it does happen. but, cliche-y as it seems, what happens after that depends on the both of you - whether you choose to make or break the relationship. i'm glad you made it :)

    (and by golly, you both look pretty good for seventeen! :D)

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  23. HI MEEYAGIRL!
    We chose to make it, though people close to us are doing their darndest to break us apart. I kid you not.

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